By MAGGIE SNAVELY
Life is filled with so many detours. As much as we wish things could always run smoothly, that is simply not the case. When you are constantly thrown twists and turns it is extremely difficult to stay motivated. There are some steps you can try to help deal with unexpected detours.
Sometimes it is easy to get frantic when you’re moving through life smoothly and quickly. Then an obstacle shows up in front of you, but you don’t want to stop. The best thing you can do in these scenarios is to slow down and remember that life isn’t a race. Though it can seem daunting, sometimes we might have to take a different path than the one we want. That doesn’t mean that path can’t take you to the same place. Physician Susan Biali Haas, a writer for Psychology Today, said, “I have been stunned by the experience of slowing down. It is like waking up, without having known you were asleep. What I’ve realized by slowing down, though, is how habitually I have been rushing.” Take some time to stop and ask yourself if you are unknowingly rushing through your life.
Believe in yourself
Nobody enjoys life detours because it takes us away from our comfort zone. Which makes us question ourselves and wonder whether or not we will be able to handle this detour. This fear of the unknown causes us to only focus on the bed and parts of ourselves that we think are weak. To get past these blocks in the road you have to leave this negative mindset behind. Tell yourself that you will be able to overcome this, because chances are you will.
There’s no reason to panic when you can’t find an immediate way around a detour. As much as we may not want to, some detours cannot be passed. You need to know when to find a path around the detour, and when to tough it out and accept it. Most of the time, you can’t control what happens to you. It’s up to you to decide how you handle life’s sudden changes. Choose to learn from this life event and gain some personal growth or learn new things. A sudden detour only has to be a waste of time if you make it one. Besides, even if you don’t see it now; this detour might be taking you to the place you need to go.
“Not all who wander are lost” -J.R.R Tolken