Editor’s Column: Nice is the new cool
Maggie Snavely is the Self and Style editor at Ethic News
By MAGGIE SNAVELY
Cooperation in various settings such as school, work and personal relationships is shown to improve teamwork relations, shared decision making and emotional maturity. (Ethan Dewri/Ethic Photos)
School campuses are filled with numerous individuals that all have different and unique personalities. In some cases, we don’t always get along with all these types of people. However, collaborating with people we didn’t necessarily choose to work with will follow us throughout our entire life. Though we may not befriend everyone we meet, it does not mean that we should default to rudeness. Behaving unnecessarily rude towards a person will only result in an unpleasant time for the both of you. Why not try to make the best of your time and make things a little less miserable?
Consider this scenario: you get paired up with the last person you wanted to partner with for a class project. You find yourself already stressing about how you will not only complete the project, but also find a way to work with someone who has an incompatible work ethic or attitude. The best way to handle this situation would be starting to think the complete opposite.
If you start anything by worrying about how terrible it’s going to be, it will most likely be awful. It’s hard to have a good time when you are stuck in this negative cloud of thinking. Start off by encouraging a positive mindset of how this may be better than expectation, and then perhaps it will.
Instead of letting our first reaction be rudeness or impatience, it is better to approach the situation with an open mind. Rather than feeling like you have to take the wheel all the time, maybe stop and listen to the other person and see what they have to say.
Sometimes in life we have to take a step back and adapt to situations we would not normally put ourselves in. Let someone else take the lead and try to learn from the way they choose to conduct themselves. This mindset may prevent a serious clashing of ideas that both of you are trying to convey.
Of course when we don’t like somebody our first reaction is not to be super nice to them. But, this response usually encourages the person to be not so nice back. If all students on campus started behaving a little bit nicer towards others who they consider strangers, school would likely become a more tolerable place.
Next time you think you won’t get along with someone, go in with an open mind and you may end up getting along a lot better than you thought you would.