By ALEENA SIRITANAPIVAT
You have heard the saying at least once or twice: love makes the world go round. However, in this modern world, where we are constantly looking at our “dry” phones, we, especially those who are still searching for love, need to rethink how we view the supposedly most romantic day of the year: Valentine’s Day.
Around the world, couples give each other gifts, singles gather up the courage to confess to their crush and others buy ice cream to mope over their lack of love. These common traditions have been around for a long time, and most people feel the pressure to follow the first one. A survey of 1,000 people from AskMen reported that 9 out of 10 people experience pressure from being single on Valentine’s Day. I say don’t.
When giant teddy bears, boxes of chocolate and bouquets of roses have become so normalized around those first two weeks of February, it can be hard to let go of the engrained expectation that you should be in a relationship at this time. I, for one, have stopped caring entirely. Call me heartless, but there is just too much importance placed on romantic relationships and not enough on platonic and personal ones.
Where is that boyfriend or girlfriend of yours when the two of you are fighting? Where is your best friend at that time? They are the ones eating ice cream with you, not him or her. When you’re crying about love, they are the ones supporting and laughing at you all at once. When you’re lying on the sofa doing nothing, they are the ones sitting right next to you. Holding hands and all of that other couple stuff is dandy, but let’s be honest: we all still need our best friends.
Secondly, the reason we celebrate Valentine’s Day is because of Saint Valentine, a third-century priest who, according to legend, gave up his life to marry soldiers to their loved ones during a time when it was illegal. Society has just placed a high and commercialized value to the day when, in actuality, we could be romantic any other day. No one is stopping you from proposing on April 13 or the second Saturday of June. Valentine’s Day is just that: a day.
A day is a measurement of time, which is part of a year. A year has approximately 365 days, which makes 8,760 hours or 525,600 minutes. There are 20 minutes to ask out your crush, 2 hours to go out on a date, and 3 days to plan a proposal—not just one day with a measly 24 hours compared to the other 8,736 hours in a year.
Sure, you and I may be single on Valentine’s Day, but we are single every other day until we find our significant other; this does not make us any less on one day.