Self & Style

Nice is the new cool: Including everyone

By MAGGIE SNAVELY

Have you ever noticed those kids who are sitting alone and quietly eating at lunch?  They are always by themselves, but it’s normal right? We don’t think anything of it, but if you take the time to experience that, you start to see how lonely it feels. Try to put yourself in their place. How would you feel if you had to sit by yourself and eat lunch? It most likely wouldn’t be very fun.  It would mean the world to them if you could take the time to walk up and just start a conversation with them. No matter how embarrassing you think it might be, they will be happy that someone took the time to notice them and cared enough to make them feel more welcomed on campus.

According to U.S. News and World Report, “ A new study found almost half of Americans feel alone, and younger generations feel the most isolated.” Maybe you can understand what it feels like when you have nobody to turn to. Have you ever been in a place where you don’t know anyone, and you are made to awkwardly stand around all alone? Think about how it would make you feel in that situation if another person walked up to you and greeted you with a smile.  It would surely brighten your day to know that they saw you, noticed you were all alone and decided to go up and make a new friend make you feel better.

If you do feel lonely, you do not have to wait for someone else to approach you to start making new friends. There are some things you can do on your own to make you feel less alone. As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “The only way to make friends is to be one.”

          Below are some tips to help you make new friends:

  1.   When you are meeting someone new, try to look for things you have in common.
  2. Don’t shut everyone out. If they are willing to get to know or help you, take advantage of it!
  3. Put on a friendly face. Show people that you are a nice person looking to make new friends.
  4. If you find a small group at lunch that you are interested in getting to know, there is no harm in walking up and asking if you can sit with them.
  5. Always show who you really are.  You attract people that are similar to yourself by doing this.
  6.  Remember that there are lots of different kinds of people out there. There is someone somewhere that is definitely willing to be your friend.

If you keep these things in mind, you are sure to have plenty of friends in no time. As long as you are willing to try, then someone else is too. If you ever see anyone that looks lonely, just try to get them involved, and always keep your arms open for new friends. “There is always room in the heart for one more friend” -unknown

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(Gabriel Stanfield/Ethic News)

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