By ALYSSA OUILLETTE
Most teens these days seem to deal with the pressures of being perfect, having the perfect body, the perfect skin, the perfect hair, the perfect teeth, the list is never ending. As a teenager myself I have dealt with the same struggles of yearning for the unrealistic goal of perfection. As a freshman and sophomore in high-school I dealt with this struggle immensely, and looked down upon myself for the way that I looked. I would stare at myself in the mirror and constantly would find something to fix or change about myself, but then I realized that no matter how much I were to change myself there would always be something I would want to fix.
There is no such thing as perfection, and we must learn to love ourselves for the imperfections that we have. It took me quite awhile to figure this out, but once I did I felt more happy and content with my life. I finally learned to accept myself for who I was as a person. It wasn’t the easiest thing to do, but with the help from friends and family I was able to be directed in the right path.
We must surround ourselves around those who are positive and uplifting, as it enhances a positive lifestyle and a positive self-esteem. Even when you feel that you have no one to talk to or no one to support you, you are wrong; there is always someone out there willing to listen and to encourage you in the right direction. Being around negative people who are constantly degrading you as a human being is no way to live a life. Finding the right group of friends is tremendously important, as we must surround ourselves with those who love us for who we are.
We must focus on the pure essence of our own good, and we must be grateful for the things that we are blessed with.
Most teens look down upon themselves because of the unrealistic images that are portrayed through magazines, social media, and on television. They feel that they must live up to the things they see in other people, and that in order to be liked by others they need to look a certain way. What they are forgetting is that the most important opinion of all is their own.
We must learn to love ourselves, and focus on our personal well-being. What really matters most is how we are as people, what we do to be a better person within our community, and what we do to help the people around us. We must enhance our character as people, rather than focusing on how we look, or how other people view us. Discovering who we truly are as individuals is one of life’s greatest achievements, as it allows us most importantly to love ourselves, but also to spread the same love to the world around us.
“Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that’s when you are the most beautiful.”-Zoe Kravitz